Yes it is.We had to do it with my parents. They were in an assisted living facility, so they really did not need to drive. They liked going out to lunch but woul get lost going back. They would call saying they were lost in a town that they were very familiar with. I would ask for road signs and guide them back.
Had a conversation with my siblings and we all agreed it was time to take the keys. We knew it would not be easy because mom is very stubborn. I drew the shot straw, so I had to do the deed. I had my sister drive me there and told my parents I needed to borrow their car because my truck was in the shop. They had no problem letting me borrow it. Mom called a week later wanting to know when I was returning the car. I told her there were unexpected problems and parts were back ordered. She excepted that. It was hard to lie to them. She called a week later all pissed off saying "did you think we gave it to you?" That's when I told her we had to take it because they were getting lost. Well that did not go over good at all. She insisted they never got lost and demanded I return the car. I did not want to argue so I told her I would return it hoping she would forget. She would call every week and be mad as heck. So I told her I would bring it back on Saturday, she was satisfied. Every week she would call and I said I would return it on Saturday, and she was happy with that answer. Eventually her memory faded and she forgot about it.
One of the hardest things to do but it was necessary.
Dad had mild azhiemer's and mom had dementia. It is terrible watching them go through it.
Smart has very little to do with it. As we age our reflexes slow down. Our synapses don't make connections as fast. And our thoughts get...........confused. It happens to everyone who makes it to old-age, but can be much worse for people who develop conditions, or diseases that affect their thinking.My dad is 74 and borrows my Miata for track days when he wants to be "reminded of how fast his Corvette is".
We will never have this talk. He's too independent and too stubborn. Buy he's also smart enough to know his limitations.
My Great Grandmother died on the way to visit Great Grandfather at the extended care home. She had a massive heart attack, left the road, took out someone's fence and hit a tree. They said she was most likely dead before her car left the road. She was 92."When I die, I want to go peacefully in my sleep, like my Grandpa did. Not like the other 4 people who were in the car with him."
Funny, until it's not.
Sometimes just driving the speed limit will get that response.I started wondering about this last summer. 2 consecutive visits with my dad he mentioned how rude drivers are getting. Told me several stories of people speeding around him and either honking or giving him the finger. I laughed at first because i remember him talking about my grandma complaining of the same terrible drivers when she began aging. Then he told me the story of a guy passing him on an on ramp to I 75 and flipping him the bird. Second person to give him the finger that day he said. Really made me wonder if things are worse with him than I realize.