This discussion probably goes back to the caveman days. Anyone who is as obsessed as we all are with our sport, and has a significant other of some type, has surely had this same discussion. I learned a trick a loooooong time ago that helps me with this. My wife's birthday is in mid February, so I got in the habit about 10 years ago of taking her on a real nice vacation in January or February in honor of her birthday. We've gone to Alaska, Mexico, Florida, the Caribbean, etc., etc., etc. This year we are off on a cruise to the western Caribbean the last week in January. So now any time that she gets a little whiny about me spending too much money on gear, or being gone most of the time from October 1 to December, all I have to say is "I know it's a long fall honey and I've been gone a lot, but just think about the nice vacation coming up in January. That's my pay back to you for all I've put you through!" Works like a charm guys. It shuts her right down. I try to do a pretty extravagant trip like this every couple of years. It's worth the money, and it's not like I don't have some fun too!