After 30 years,how to show I still care?

[4pwr]

My wife dosn:t have much to work with. Just an average guy that that can never understand why she has done such a wonderful job with me and the kids. We are middle age now. Kids gone. I try to do little things.I guess I"m asking,what can the average guy do for his wife to make her feel he is there and always will. Birthdays,I ask what do you want,nothing is her reply. Same for about any special day. What do you get or do for your girl that has stood strog and loving not fearing the future because she has the courage of a lion?

[prettyntuff]

How about a weekend get away at a nice resort? Create some new memories while you're there. :D

[tangleknot]

Originally posted by 4pwr
Birthdays,I ask what do you want,nothing is her reply. Same for about any special day. What do you get or do for your girl that has stood strog and loving not fearing the future because she has the courage of a lion?


She sounds like a true giver!

Wow, sounds like you have a great relationship and you are more than the average guy!

You are doing EVERYTHING right! Take her out for breakfast and tell her how much you care for her! Focus the day from there and surprise her with a full day of something she loves! You both will have a great day!

[trout]

Stop asking her what she wants and think of anything each day from your heart.
After thirty years it's you she loves, not the things she gets.
Surprise her! tell her you Love her.
Man..........did I just type that ;)

[tangleknot]

I'm with prettyntuff,LOL!

Weekend resort sounds great!:D

[tangleknot]

Originally posted by trout
After thirty years it's you she loves, not the things she gets.
Surprise her! tell her you Love her.
Man..........did I just type that ;)

Why, yes! You did.............

Spoken like a true romantic, lol!

[prettyntuff]

Originally posted by trout
Stop asking her what she wants and think of anything each day from your heart.
After thirty years it's you she loves, not the things she gets.
Surprise her! tell her you Love her.
Man..........did I just type that ;)

Yep, and it will forever be used against you by everyone that reads it! LOL

[Lunker]

How bout some fine cigars and a bottle of home made pear wine with some venison Langyeagers?? Yummy!!!!!

Or ... a round trip to California, Florida, somewhere warm ....maybe where she has family she wants to visit and let her go to the places she wants. In the meantime you could sit back with the pear wine while shes driving!!! Perfect!!:D

[Kevin]

Sounds like you and your wife have got it right.
I try to do something nice, in some small way everyday, even when we have been at each other a little, even if it is just to tell my Caroline that she is looking foxy (in my disco voice). We only have seven years down, but I think they are good years. I admire your 30.

My parents have 42 years in. When I was growing up, I remember my Dad singing this song:
I'll give you a daisy a day dear.
I'll give you a daisy a day.
I'll love you until the river runs still
and the four winds we know blow away.

(or something close to that) I did not actually see him giving a daisy a day, but it is a nice sentiment :D

[tangleknot]

Originally posted by Lunker
How bout some fine cigars and a bottle of home made pear wine with some venison Langyeagers?? Yummy!!!!!




LOL, Lunker! I'll vote for the "round trip", to ANYWHERE warm.

[tangleknot]

AMOS,


Us gals adore the disco voice!
:D

Good to see the women's forum on fire tonight, lol!

Or anytime, for that matter, lol!

[northern_outdoorsman]

This is a great thread! You can never tell someone you love how much you love them too much! A kiss goodnight, I Love you's...Thank her for the most wonderful 30 years of your life...Spend time with her doing thigs she enjoys...cuddle on the couch and watch a movie...Man I am only 30 and single but I have heard women like all these things and a whole lot more, but I don't wanna bore ya...LOL!

Really, my biggest suggestion is show her the 1st post you made on this thread...if my predictions are correct, she will smile, get a tear in her eye and tell you how much she loves you...it willl make her day;)

[kingfisher2]

A suggestion for you that I use when I meet a lady that I really care for and want to continue seeing....you have to do your homework first and after thirty years, you should know all this things...

First, find out her favorite foods, dishes and how she likes them prepared. Second, what's her favorite flowers and candys. Third, what color does she like to wear....then......

Go to a resteraunt that carry's her favorite food. Order all the food, including the salad dressing, drinks, etc..ahead of time...give them the flowers, candles with the aroma she likes and box of candies......Also, let them know her name

Let them know exactly what time you will be arriving with her...you may want to give them a call from the cell phone when you're within a couple miles from the resteraunt....

You suprise her with, "I'm taking you to dinner tonight....when you arrive at the resteraunt, she will be greeted by her first name she will find her salad waiting for her, candles lit with her favorite aroma, her dinner prepared without even ordering it, drinks already poured and the flowers she likes in the middle of the table....after the main course is over, the waiter brings her the box of candies....the finishing touch....when she gets home she'll find a wrapped box on the bed with her favorite colored nighty in it.....

Believe me....this works...........good luck!

Marc

[Shoeman]

I would really be cautious taking advice from some of these guys...LOL

A girl in every port????:D

[kingfisher2]

Ralf, your wife likes blue cheese dressing, medium well, extra sour cream on her baked potatoe, two limes in her drink, the smell of lilacs and chocolate covered cherries.....

Oh yea and red.....LMAO

[northern_outdoorsman]

Hey now...LOL!;)

[Shoeman]

Originally posted by kingfisher2
Ralf, your wife likes blue cheese dressing, medium well, extra sour cream on her baked potatoe, two limes in her drink, the smell of lilacs and chocolate covered cherries.....

Oh yea and red.....LMAO

Yup, you got her pegged... :eek:
No wonder she doesn't mind when I go away every weekend. :p

You must have deep pockets...LOL

And here I thought Pegleg was fillin' in.

[Sarge]

Women are goofy people. They say "nothing" when you ask what they want but the don't mean it. What they really mean is, "I'd rather that you think of something on your own that you know would really be 'me'." They somehow have the idea, that if you don't know them well enough after all the years to sense what they like best, it wouldn't make any difference what you gave them anyway. I think they have that idea because its true.

In my case, I know the "areas" that my wife likes but not the details. Problem is the details are a moving target. For instance she like medium priced jewelry, but I never seem to find the right item. :p

We have taken up doing nice things for each other as the "heart" gift and then go shopping together for "things". That way we save the trip to take stuff back.:D

[chromium]

Originally posted by Shoeman
And here I thought Pegleg was fillin' in.

Pegleg? LMAO

I'm not fillin' in......I can't afford her. ;)

I have Miss Issippi to worry about! :D :eek:

[mickey]

Hmm, last edited by tangleknot. LOL

I find a good campfire and car alarm are key to a fine time with a lady. Speaking of keys, have you seen mine? :D
You guys are too funny. A bunch of softies...

[chromium]

Lovely Moderators......:(

LOL Mickey......You're a funny guy!

[tangleknot]

He he!

[chromium]

Hey!! That'swhat I said.

I believe this is perfect moderating. Great guideline following Tangleknot. ;) :D

My wife is perfect and is always right. What a goddess.

[Shoeman]

Faggitaboutit

It's a new regime. I wonder if she has those farging powers in Sound Off? :eek: :rolleyes: :confused:

Oh, Hi Sarah...LOL

[OutdoorGirl]

I am one of those that always say "I don't want nothing", and I really don't. When I met Dale, I was a pretty messed up teenager. He made me straighten up and walk the line, so to speak. For that, I am forever thankful. I probably would have ended up like my brother, a drunk and a drug abuser.

I agree with the whole surprise thing and go away for the weekend. I love to shop(espically for shoes, from which I am grounded from :( )so and ideal trip for me would be to the Mall of America. Or someplace warm or maybe a place where a lot of stuff in history has happened. Find her likes. Mine would bore Dale like crazy, but if he were to give up a weekend and do that stuff for me and put himself through that much pain(:D )then it would be worth it.

Sometimes, you guys end up getting pretty rewarded for that stuff. Dale got a guided trip in Tennesse because he put up with my family for a week. I don't do the whole jewerly thing. Not my style.

Congratulations on 30 years. Man, I thought 6 was long....


Annie

[Labrat]

For a bunch of outdoorsmen that go out and kill stuff we still have a pansy side. We love our wife and family. We want them to be happy when we aren’t there to comfort them. They welcome us home after a fishing trip even though they gave us a hard time about us taking off for a weekend and leaving them alone.

We can always be better because we are always bad.

I like the response from trout:

troutAssistant Administrator Registered: Jan 2000Location: Support Dove HuntingPosts: 5458offline Stop asking her what she wants and think of anything each day from your heart.After thirty years it's you she loves, not the things she gets.Surprise her! tell her you Love her.Man..........did I just type that __________________

But I think telling her you love her should not be a surprise. Tell her this often, tell her this when you are with people so she and everybody knows that you love her, tell her you love her before she goes to sleep and when she wakes up.

Enough of this sappy stuff, just pat her on the butt, tell her she is great, give her a hug and kiss every once in awhile.

Do you think we could make a Hallmark card with this dribble?

[OutdoorGirl]

I think that Hallmark should think about this. Let us see, it could go something like....

When we are out in the woods and not near(this would be on the outside)

Just a line to let you know that I am thinking of you, deer!!!(on the inside, with of course, the wrong spelling but it is the thought that counts:D ;) ).

AWWWW....it might just work.

Annie

[prettyntuff]

ROFLMAO!! Too funny Outdoorgirl! I think you should work for Hallmark!

[OutdoorGirl]

Thanks. Actually, after I wrote that, all I could think about was the movie "Mr. Deeds" with Adam Sandler and how he wanted to work for Hallmark. I liked that movie.


Annie

[Steve]

Outdoorgirl, that's pretty good. I might have to make up a card like that for my week of bowhunting :)

[Neal]

When we are out in the woods and not near(this would be on the outside)

Just a line to let you know that I am thinking of you, deer!!!(on the inside, with of course, the wrong spelling but it is the thought that counts ).

Don't forget that little dab of doe- in- heat to complete that card.

great thread

Neal

[QueenSalmon]

I'm the type of lady who loves to bow hunt, actually any hunting or fishing..anything outdoors. HOwever every once in awhile I get a bug....where I want to dress up and go out to dinner or something. I think he finally figured me out ;) .... He got me a big buck 3-d deer target which I absolutely love and use regularly and a "froo-froo" (girly item) gift , a beautiful ring that I love and get tons of compliments on .

I try to remember the things that he shows me in catalogs or while we are shoping or when he's talking with friends about cool items. Ladies are the same way. THere are always comments made in everday life that will give you hints as to little/big gifts to buy your significant other. I try to do this with everyone I know so I can buy nice things to let them know I care and pay attention. Sometimes I write it down so I don't forget if I hear something that they would just die for so I don't forget.

My hubby and I always tell each other thru out our day how much we love each other. Every time we leave to go some where no matter if we will only be gone minutes or hours. Every time on the phine before we hangup we say we love each other. My whole family does this actually, I also tell my close girlfriends that too. You never know when god might call someone you know to him. I like to know that the last things I said to the people I REALLY care about is that I love them!!!

WHat a GREAT THREAD. THanks for starting it!!! I think that everyone has got some great ideas to show that special someone they care. It sure is nice to read a thread like this and know that there are still alot of GODD AND CARING PEOPLE IN THE WORLD!!!



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