Thanks for the Support

[DE82]

Probably the wrong forum for this so sorry Walleye Mike but I wanted to put this here for a reason.....recently I've had a lot of great people who post here in the ice fishing forum check up on me, rather it's a phone call, PM or what to see how I was doing, many urged me to go to the "Meat and Greet" and Sly's which I did not make it to....sorry for not being able to meet up with each of you personally today and thank you for being there, I didn't get a lot of sleep last night and the weather didn't help matters.

I won't go into detail onto why I've been so...well...depressed lately but a lot of you guys have a good idea and I've talked about it with a few of you...Let me thank Mr. Wagner for the B-day thread and all of you who wished me a happy B-day...it made me feel better, it really did as I didn't get to talk to that one person I wanted to on my B-day sadly :( and thanks for the PM's and emails and phone calls(Sly) even if I didn't respond to them, thank you because they let me know somebody cared which is a big help.

I'm still in a funk even as I type this...not being able to do anything about my situation is the biggest reason I'm like this and even though all of you that have talked to me about this have helped A LOT...I think this is something at this point I just have to work out on my own in my own mind....when I'll be back to my QB sacking, ice fishing self I don't know but thanks to all who have checked up and helped me...I'd like to especially thank Sly. Aaron and Lisa who made a lot of sense when trying to help me, this is just something I'm gonna have to figure out on my own I guess but it helps a lot to know if I need anybody, I have a lot of friends here and even though this post has nothing to do with fishing I wanted to make it..here in this forum where so many of you showed me support so I could make sure it was seen by the right people :)


So again thanks to ALL of you who helped, messaged me, wished me well or went above and beyond and I'm sorry I couldn't make the "Meat and Greet" A lot of really good people here on this forum and a lot of people I'm happy to call friends so thanks - Bryon

[ficious]

Bryon,

Sorry you couldn't make it, Mr Kroger put on a blugill clinic(again) today. Hope everything works out for you. Grab dad and head down to the water. it helps sometimes.

Harry

[DE82]

Bryon,

Sorry you couldn't make it, Mr Kroger put on a blugill clinic(again) today. Hope everything works out for you.

HarryThat Mr. Wagner always makes me look bad...err I mean shows me a thing or two :lol:

Thanks Harry, only time will tell if it will and that's the hardest part...just waiting.. funny thing is Bre would kill me if she knew I hadn't done much for football this week :yikes: because I've felt so "blah"

[stinger63]

Gettin out there on the ice fishing always helps keep oneself on dwelling on their problems.Right now getting out and doing things would be the best thing for you Bryon.You know that I make a good listener so if you need to talk dont be afraid to call me.Last but not least I know the both of us missed a great time today myself for a different reason than yours though.Anyways man get well soon Aaron

[DE82]

Gettin out there on the ice fishing always helps keep oneself on dwelling on their problems.Right now getting out and doing things would be the best thing for you Bryon.You know that I make a good listener so if you need to talk dont be afraid to call me.Last but not least I know the both of us missed a great time today myself for a different reason than yours though.Anyways man get well soon AaronThanks Aaron, just been doing A LOT of thinking since last time I talked with Bre(Sunday) hoping she's safe and okay :( Last time I was on the ice I just couldn't pay attention to anything...ask Harry I was flat out lame, got only two fish...I will never hesitate to call you at all, you've helped me a lot...trust me on that one and I'm sorry to hear your not feeling too well..hopefully we'll both get out sooner than later...I know I owe you some fish ;)

[stinger63]

know I owe you some fish


Fishing time my friend:)

[JD Moz]

Fishing time my friend


Fishing... when and where.. U ready Bryon!! Let's do this!!


JD

[DE82]

Fishing... when and where.. U ready Bryon!! Let's do this!!


JDI honestly don't know JD, I could feel up to it in a week, in a day, in a month...just don't know when I'll be out of this funk...eh I know I'm weird but I'm gonna try my best to meet up with you on the ice this season -Bryon

[Robert Hoover]

don't know whats gettin ya down but bro< i lost two grandmother a uncle and a aunt and a future fiance(but got her back cause i am the **** duh)bought a house and have no income job refuses to lay me off and no work lined up(construction) i love life you could lose it ll you still got everything though look from the outside in compared to what everyone else is going through.. best of wishesh if not i drink alot of beer often come hang out and laugh like you never did before!

[mike the pike]

DE82 needs a big MICHIGAN SPORTSMAN HUG , sorry we smell like fish , but we support you whether we've met or not. Keep that chin up and we'll see you on the ice when you're ready.

[icefishin nutz]

Bryon,
Like I told you before, you dont need to thank me, that's what friends are for:) But really, you need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off & get out of the house!! Ice season is only so long my friend, and I know how much you look forward to it.Everything is going to work out, trust me good bad or indifferent you are going to make it through all of this I just know it;) Hang in there, shake the dust off of ya & let us know when you are ready to get out there & outfish us:evilsmile.

Take care & talk to ya soon,
Lisa

[Michael Wagner]

Bryon I`ve told you before, "all the problems in the world can be solved on the ice" (or at least the beer stays cold) Your the only one who can put yourself out of this "funk" so it`s up to you to get out and do it. Mike

[hbongaiii]

Someone once told me, "The best way to get on your feet is to get OFF your ass." I sure do know how true it is. Life throws EVERYONE curves once in a while. The true measure of a person is NOT in 'if something happens' to them but HOW they deal with it. Life's tooo short to STAY miserable!!!!
Hank

[stinger63]

Life's tooo short to STAY miserable
So true Get out and fish bryon you got some paint to wear off those glow shiners of yours.:)

[Frantz]

I have been on this site for years. Have made a few friends, no enemies that I can think of, but have ticked my share of people off. What I have found, with the majority of the people here, is that regardless of opinions and views on a number of items, as long as you are a decent person and not a known criminal and have ethics, there is always someone here willing to give you a shot and help you out. It may not be all the people all the time, but there are always enough people to keep a guy in the shallow end of the pool when he thinks he is about to drown.

[DE82]

don't know whats gettin ya down but bro< i lost two grandmother a uncle and a aunt and a future fiance(but got her back cause i am the **** duh)bought a house and have no income job refuses to lay me off and no work lined up(construction) i love life you could lose it ll you still got everything though look from the outside in compared to what everyone else is going through.. best of wishesh if not i drink alot of beer often come hang out and laugh like you never did before!Thanks

DE82 needs a big MICHIGAN SPORTSMAN HUG , sorry we smell like fish , but we support you whether we've met or not. Keep that chin up and we'll see you on the ice when you're ready.Thanks :)

Bryon,
Like I told you before, you dont need to thank me, that's what friends are for:) But really, you need to pick yourself up, dust yourself off & get out of the house!! Ice season is only so long my friend, and I know how much you look forward to it.Everything is going to work out, trust me good bad or indifferent you are going to make it through all of this I just know it;) Hang in there, shake the dust off of ya & let us know when you are ready to get out there & outfish us:evilsmile.

Take care & talk to ya soon,
LisaI know it will work out Lisa...it's just I want it to work out with her and I together because we both want that is all and you'll be one of the first to know when I'm ready to get out again

Bryon I`ve told you before, "all the problems in the world can be solved on the ice" (or at least the beer stays cold) Your the only one who can put yourself out of this "funk" so it`s up to you to get out and do it. MikeYou could probably give me some good insight on the matter I'm going through Mike, mind if I call you sometime today? It's a long story, so your warned :lol:

Someone once told me, "The best way to get on your feet is to get OFF your ass." I sure do know how true it is. Life throws EVERYONE curves once in a while. The true measure of a person is NOT in 'if something happens' to them but HOW they deal with it. Life's tooo short to STAY miserable!!!!
HankYep your right Hank...it's weird how I'm feeling right now...I guess powerless more than anything else

So true Get out and fish bryon you got some paint to wear off those glow shiners of yours.:)Any idea when you'll be back down Aaron?

I have been on this site for years. Have made a few friends, no enemies that I can think of, but have ticked my share of people off. What I have found, with the majority of the people here, is that regardless of opinions and views on a number of items, as long as you are a decent person and not a known criminal and have ethics, there is always someone here willing to give you a shot and help you out. It may not be all the people all the time, but there are always enough people to keep a guy in the shallow end of the pool when he thinks he is about to drown.Thanks, you make a lot of good points -Bryon

[stinger63]

Any idea when you'll be back down Aaron?

Hopefully tommorow Bryon.

[DE82]

Hopefully tommorow Bryon.I'll call you later today

[tinmarine]

Hoss, you need to quit talking and just go fishing. Preferably, away from here, away from everyone close to you. You'll never clear your head when your stuck in the middle of it. Get away, and turn off the phone. Go to Mitchell's spend the weekend filling a cooler full of perch. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and God doesn't give us anything we can't handle. First step is to step back.

[stinger63]

I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and God doesn't give us anything we can't handle
That is so true and well said.

[DE82]

Hoss, you need to quit talking and just go fishing. Preferably, away from here, away from everyone close to you. You'll never clear your head when your stuck in the middle of it. Get away, and turn off the phone. Go to Mitchell's spend the weekend filling a cooler full of perch. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and God doesn't give us anything we can't handle. First step is to step back.You know Jim you make a lot of good points and I'd like to apologize for being so withdrawn on the ice when we went to Harrsens about a week ago, I'm normally not like that as Harry, Wagner or anybody who fishes with me will tell you so I hope we can meet up again sometime - Bryon

[GaryFisherman]

I feel for you brother...I have been where your at. You have to tell yourself is it will pass and you will come out of it.

You really are in control of life, even if it doesn't seem like it though. You control what you think and how you react to things. The time is going to pass either way so just try and look on the positive...

I wouldn't wish depression or anxiety disorders on my worse enemy...

If you need to talk email me at gary.delcourt@yahoo.com

I have been dealing with similar issues since I was 15....almost 25 years now....

Experience is the key to anything...just like fishing. It helps to know someone who has been through it and the best way to get through it













Probably the wrong forum for this so sorry Walleye Mike but I wanted to put this here for a reason.....recently I've had a lot of great people who post here in the ice fishing forum check up on me, rather it's a phone call, PM or what to see how I was doing, many urged me to go to the "Meat and Greet" and Sly's which I did not make it to....sorry for not being able to meet up with each of you personally today and thank you for being there, I didn't get a lot of sleep last night and the weather didn't help matters.

I won't go into detail onto why I've been so...well...depressed lately but a lot of you guys have a good idea and I've talked about it with a few of you...Let me thank Mr. Wagner for the B-day thread and all of you who wished me a happy B-day...it made me feel better, it really did as I didn't get to talk to that one person I wanted to on my B-day sadly :( and thanks for the PM's and emails and phone calls(Sly) even if I didn't respond to them, thank you because they let me know somebody cared which is a big help.

I'm still in a funk even as I type this...not being able to do anything about my situation is the biggest reason I'm like this and even though all of you that have talked to me about this have helped A LOT...I think this is something at this point I just have to work out on my own in my own mind....when I'll be back to my QB sacking, ice fishing self I don't know but thanks to all who have checked up and helped me...I'd like to especially thank Sly. Aaron and Lisa who made a lot of sense when trying to help me, this is just something I'm gonna have to figure out on my own I guess but it helps a lot to know if I need anybody, I have a lot of friends here and even though this post has nothing to do with fishing I wanted to make it..here in this forum where so many of you showed me support so I could make sure it was seen by the right people :)


So again thanks to ALL of you who helped, messaged me, wished me well or went above and beyond and I'm sorry I couldn't make the "Meat and Greet" A lot of really good people here on this forum and a lot of people I'm happy to call friends so thanks - Bryon

[DE82]

I feel for you brother...I have been where your at. You have to tell yourself is it will pass and you will come out of it.

You really are in control of life, even if it doesn't seem like it though. You control what you think and how you react to things. The time is going to pass either way so just try and look on the positive...

I wouldn't wish depression or anxiety disorders on my worse enemy...

If you need to talk email me at gary.delcourt@yahoo.com

I have been dealing with similar issues since I was 15....almost 25 years now....

Experience is the key to anything...just like fishing. It helps to know someone who has been through it and the best way to get through itThanks A LOT Garry, I will take you up on your offer sometime, that you can be sure of ;) -Bryon

[MSUICEMAN]

nothing that a bottle of jack and some strippers can't take care of....

just kidding. i've been in a funk before because of a relationship.... learned that its not worth it.

[Robert Hoover]

Me and my girl broke up for four or five months......it was the best thing that ever happened ! i had a blast meet new people and got alot out of my system now we have a house together (in my name) and talk alot about engagement.She just doesnt like the title roommate!lol.everything worked out when i stoppped caring and trying you are who you are and thats all you can be.I know its not easy but forget about it go try some new stuff and things will all work out, if not their is always laughter beer and fish and deer!

[DE82]

Me and my girl broke up for four or five months......it was the best thing that ever happened ! i had a blast meet new people and got alot out of my system now we have a house together (in my name) and talk alot about engagement.She just doesnt like the title roommate!lol.everything worked out when i stoppped caring and trying you are who you are and thats all you can be.I know its not easy but forget about it go try some new stuff and things will all work out, if not their is always laughter beer and fish and deer!Probably the hardest part is Bre(my girlfriend) and my self are having no problems at all, it's more of her family not liking the age difference....

I did a lot of thinking today..haven't talked to her today yet but I did a lot of thinking and she knows how I feel about her and I know how she feels about me so at this point I just have to wait and believe our love is strong enough to over come this until she moves out of her Dad's house...

Thanks again to all of you who have PM'd me, called and left words of advice here...I appreciate every bit of it :)

[Mark Sylvester]

Me and my girl broke up for four or five months......it was the best thing that ever happened ! i had a blast meet new people and got alot out of my system now we have a house together (in my name) and talk alot about engagement.She just doesnt like the title roommate!lol.everything worked out when i stoppped caring and trying you are who you are and thats all you can be.I know its not easy but forget about it go try some new stuff and things will all work out, if not t;)heir is always laughter beer and fish and deer!


Great Wisdom for a younger fella'!!!!;)







:coolgleam

[MERGANZER]

Bryon, I know nothing of the significance of this age difference but I do know one thing from experience. And that is you better straighten out things with her family or you will be doomed forever if she has any respect for them at all. It may not happen tomorrow or next year but if you don't work those issues out first there will be trouble down the road. Good luck

Ganzer

[4 Car Garage]

Watch it Byron, 15 will get ya 20...

[DE82]

Bryon, I know nothing of the significance of this age difference but I do know one thing from experience. And that is you better straighten out things with her family or you will be doomed forever if she has any respect for them at all. It may not happen tomorrow or next year but if you don't work those issues out first there will be trouble down the road. Good luck

GanzerYep...that I'm making a point to do trust me on that one and thanks Ganzer..means a lot for you making a post since we've had our differences in the past -Bryon

Watch it Byron, 15 will get ya 20...She's 18 :lol: I'm 23(just turned 23 last Thursday)

[Big Daddy Benelli]

Mark, he's (robert Hoover) really got you fooled!!:lol: Sorry Rob. I couldn't resist!:D

Great Wisdom for a younger fella'!!!!;)







:coolgleam

[Mark Sylvester]

Watch it Byron, 15 will get ya 20...

And 18 may get you a life sentence!!!!
I'm in my 27th year!!!:dizzy::lol:

Mark, he's (robert Hoover) really got you fooled!!:lol: Sorry Rob. I couldn't resist!:D

I'm Easy!!!:evilsmile

[jiggineyes]

To me thats not a big age difference at all. I guess everyone is different though. Eventually her parents will have to realize shes 18 and not their little girl anymore. If her parents know youre as good of a guy as you seem to be they will accept it in the end. just may take time. Hang in there buddy!

[PerchOnly]

She's 18 :lol: I'm 23(just turned 23 last Thursday)

Boy this thread had me at first concerned, then interested, then when you said it was an age thing I'm thinking OH OH :SHOCKED:, get ready to call the police, this is going to get ugly. Then this post, whew! :lol:

Parents can be a bi%$*. I know I am one.

I like what jiggineyes said.

[DE82]

To me thats not a big age difference at all. I guess everyone is different though. Eventually her parents will have to realize shes 18 and not their little girl anymore. If her parents know youre as good of a guy as you seem to be they will accept it in the end. just may take time. Hang in there buddy!I am...I won't give up on her...never just hard to have so much time until I can have her in my arms... Sadly her Dad wants NOTHING to do with me, won't even talk to me, won't meet me, nothing...so there we are, she's really upset with how he's acting but I told her we just need to get over this bump and then once your at college he has no say what so ever...I don't want to go totally over his head or make things hard on her...never want things hard on her at all.

Boy this thread had me at first concerned, then interested, then when you said it was an age thing I'm thinking OH OH :SHOCKED:, get ready to call the police, this is going to get ugly. Then this post, whew! :lol:

Parents can be a bi%$*. I know I am one.

I like what jiggineyes said.Yes she's 18, I'm no idiot guys lol

[tinmarine]

Dude, your doomed. My first wife's family hated me, except her dad. Still not good enough. To this day 15 yrs later they still bad mouth me. Now, normally, I wouldn't give two sh*&s, however, I have a daughter with this individual (nicest way to put it). They kept telling her what she should do, how things should be in their eyes, blah, blah, blah. It's a bad situation all around. As frustrated and mad as you are, you can't bad mouth her family. It only adds fuel to the fire and she will get mad because, well, it's her family and she loves them. As much as it sucks, all you can do is support her and try your best to be the nicest person you can. Just listen to her and make her happy and don't worry about anything else. If you stay positive, so will she. It's okay if her folks don't like you. It is. What's important is how you two feel about each other.

[DE82]

Dude, your doomed. My first wife's family hated me, except her dad. Still not good enough. To this day 15 yrs later they still bad mouth me. Now, normally, I wouldn't give two sh*&s, however, I have a daughter with this individual (nicest way to put it). They kept telling her what she should do, how things should be in their eyes, blah, blah, blah. It's a bad situation all around. As frustrated and mad as you are, you can't bad mouth her family. It only adds fuel to the fire and she will get mad because, well, it's her family and she loves them. As much as it sucks, all you can do is support her and try your best to be the nicest person you can. Just listen to her and make her happy and don't worry about anything else. If you stay positive, so will she. It's okay if her folks don't like you. It is. What's important is how you two feel about each other.Believe it or not Jim...I see her Dad's point of view and more than once have told her to just play by his rules...never bad mouthed him..even when I wanted to :lol: I'm sure her Dad will come around once he finally meets me and sees I'm a pretty good guy and I make his daughter happy, until then just gotta play it safe..it's hard but I can handle it..I hope she can too.

[tinmarine]

I see her Dad's point of view


Trust me, being a father of 4 daughters, I see his point of view.

[DE82]

Trust me, being a father of 4 daughters, I see his point of view.I think seeing things from his side has helped keep me calm which is a big help in all of this...something she needs I'm sure is for me too be calm. Getting through these next few months is the hard part..I know once we do that and she's headed to college meeting him and talking with him won't be a problem and I'm pretty sure all will be good ;)

On a happier note I finally did a football work out and SIM for the first time in a week :lol: Hurt shoulder and all